Reasons Why I Want To Move Out And Start Living Independently

Dealing with toxic relationships, not necessarily between boyfriend-girlfriend or girlfriend-girlfriend, can really be stressful- especially if it’s within your household – whether with your parents or siblings. (Source: “Do You Have a Toxic Family Member?” by Stacey Colino from Psycom; https://www.psycom.net/relationships/toxic-family)

Signs you are in a toxic family:

• Your perception of you doesn’t go along or jibe with the way you see yourself.

• You are being accused of things you feel are not true.

• You feel emotionally destabilized (“not good enough”)

• Your family members don’t take responsibility for their own harmful actions

• They manipulate you to make you feel guilty

• They humiliate you or put you down

• They lie about things to make you feel bad

• Your family members bully or harass you

• They are nasty, mean or contemptuous

• Your family members gaslight ( a form of emotional and psychological abuse wherein a person uses verbal and behavioral tricks to convince another person you are losing your mind) you or blame you for the things they did.
  

Toxic relationships within the family can take a toll on your mood, self esteem and sense of confidence as well as the ability to make decisions or think clearly.Source: “Gaslighting: What Is It and Why Do People Do It?” from Psycom; https://www.psycom.net/gaslighting-what-is-it

Reasons why I wanted to move out and start living independently:

• I feel really suffocated too much with my mom’s nagging and demanding attitude

• I can’t be myself anymore and do whatever it is I wanted to do with my life. It’s always them that makes decisions for me when I’m already adult enough

• Relationship with my parents are getting too toxic and unhealthy for me. Lots of stress and pressure.

• They can’t stop talking about wars and moving to their province for good (which I really hate a lot). Full of negative vibes and stress.

• I just don’t see my future here in the Philippines anymore. I want to be with my girlfriend already in South Australia.

• I can’t stand my mom’s nagging behavior where she insists of getting things done her way and being too unappreciative of the help given. She always seems to expect everyone in the family to be like her and that’s what gets me feel suffocated a lot.